Unit 1.00: Introduction to Anger Management: Connecting My Anger With Me.

Connecting My Anger with Me: (By Dr. Beverly, May 2021)

  What is Anger?  According to Oxford, Anger is "a strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility." (Oxford)  Anger is also defined by the APA as: "Anger is an emotion characterized by antagonism toward someone or something you feel has deliberately done you wrong. Anger can be a good thing. It can give you a way to express negative feelings, for example, or motivate you to find solutions to problems." (APA).

  What does it look like when we do not (or cannot) manage our anger?  Perhaps like frustration, outburst.

  What is it like when we do (or can) manage our anger effectively?  Better to find solutions with.

  Think about a time you were Angry and respond to these questions: 

  What were you angry about?  Could be anything.

  If you think about your anger in your body, where was it at in your body?  Like perhaps Heart Racing, Head Pounding or Hurting, Sweating, Feeling Nervous, Shakiness.  

  What does the anger look like?  Does it look like a bouquet of rose?  (probably NOT!).

  Where is your anger in your body?  Is it in  your head?  Tummy?  Nervous hands?  Back of my skull cause all I can see if RED!!!  Or where is it?  

  What color is your anger?  Every one has  some sense of Color with their Anger... What is your Anger's color.  Is it Red, Blue, Green, Darker, Black....   It's probably NOT peach or lavender.

  What does your anger sound like?  When I was angry, all I could hear was my old Uncle's voice telling me to "take off my shirt and fight!"

  What does your anger smell like?  Like crap???  Or Does is smell like a fresh load of laundry?  (Probably NOT!!!)  How about my upper lip?

  What do you do to control your anger?  Some folks walk away -- for at least a few hours.  Others just act like they did not hear what would normally make them angry.  Some folks even drink alcohol to manage their anger -- which is NOT SMART!

  What are some ways to express your anger in a healthy way?  After careful reflection, thinking, feeling, discussion... patience... Perhaps we can do it in a healthy way.

  Feel your anger with your fingers.  What does it feel like?  Perhaps it feels rough...  smooth???  (NOT!)

  Now, using the ideas above; discuss what you were angry about when you committed your offense.  

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