Unit 8.00: Forgive and Forget -- The Best Path To Peace of Mind?

A bad thing happens to me... and that produces NEGATIVE Energy in my Life...

What am I to do with that Negative Energy?  The feelings that I got now - - that somehow, someone got the best of me?  I want REVENGE!!!  Right???

On a rare occasion; trading licks with an opponent can come out good... but why???  

What positive result could that actually produce?  So I best find an alternative to revenge...  Because revenge is a road to nowhere.

But then there is that voice of reason coming into my Right Ear from that Angel sitting on my shoulder... and she's saying... 

"Naw....  it ain't worth it...  Why?  Because two wrongs do not make a right."

Besides, Exactly how could Negative Energy help me accomplish anything that a normal person would want to accomplish?

Let's put it this way...  If I don't get rid of that Negative Energy in a non-harmful way, it will probably build up inside of me and make me EXPLODE!!!


So What's This About Forgiveness?

  "According to Wikipedia, "Forgiveness, in a psychological sense, is the intentional and voluntary process by which one who may initially feel victimized, undergoes a change in feelings and attitude regarding a given offense, and overcomes negative emotions such as resentment and vengeance."

 

What about Forgive and Forget

      • "To ensure that you make long-term changes, you need to forgive people who have angered you.
      • It's not easy to forget past resentments, but the only way to move on is to let go of these feelings. (Depending on what or who is at the root of your anger, you may have to seek a professional's help to achieve this.)
      • So, start today. Make amends with one person that you've hurt through your anger.  It might be difficult, but you'll feel better afterwards. Plus, you'll be one step closer to healing the relationship."  (Anonymous).


Stay With Me Here.  Check out this idea about how to deal with your Anger through Forgiveness:

"What happened that made me angry and that I need to forgive? 

What happened before that that I need to forgive?  And

What about my behavior do I need to forgive?  (Follow these steps)... 

Step 1: Uncovering:  (How did this behavior or offense change your life, compromise your life, impact your emotions, and make you obsess?  How did it change you?)

Sept 2: Decision:  (Describe your decision to forgive this behavior or offense on the basis of understanding what it did to you?)

Step 3: Work:  (Describe your deeper understanding of the other person or offender in the way he/she views him/herself.  Describe the empathy you have for that person).  [Why did he/she do what they did?]

Step 4: Deepening:  (Describe the meaning of this behavior or offense for you, based on your post-suffering growth.  What have you learned)?"  (Based on the work of Enright and Fitzgibbons)


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